Amazing Grace
By Joyce Wolff

Dorothy Tully, 1911 2004
My Mother lived her life with energy and enthusiasm.  Diane Rader said it best last week, "She was a feisty old broad."  This remembered from the morning Diane served her a mimosa which she refused, telling Diane that orange juice really ruined the champagne.  She'd take the bubbly straight.  This is my mother's obituary (amplified) that I submitted to the Los Alamos, New Mexico, newspaper.

On Sunday November 28, 2004, long-time Los Alamos resident, Dorothy Tully, died quietly in Trinidad, Colorado, a few days after her 93rd birthday.  Dorothy Caroline (Dot or Dotty) was born in Illinois to Maude Poston and Henry Christian Kelting.  She and her sister, Marjorie Dahl, fondly remembered eating sauerkraut from the big barrel on the floor of their dad's neighborhood grocery, H.C.Kelting's Cash Market.  Henry, a local football star with the Moline Athletic Club, inspired her love for sports.  She enjoyed reciting his football record of drop-kicking 98 successful conversion points of 100 (one hit the cross post one hit the goal post).

In southern California, where the family moved when she was a young teen, she played field hockey and tennis, which became her passion.  Sports entrepreneur, "Pop" Warner talked to her about a professional tennis career but before she could pursue it she contracted scarlet fever which ended the dream.  She graduated from Monrovia High School, and that year marched in the Rose Parade with the Pasadena Athletic Club.  During the Depression she joined a women's baseball team traveling southern California challenging men's teams but long before becoming famous they ran out of money, their manager abandoned them and they had to hitchhike home.  In wartime she worked for the USO and Traveler's Aid.

Dorothy, Marj, and Henry ham it up

In 1934 she married C. Scott Joslin (Scotty).  Scotty eventually went to work in the Los Angeles Manhattan Project Office then was transferred to top-secret Los Alamos, where they arrived in 1944 on Christmas Eve.  They both worked in the Supply and Property Division.  Dotty was active in Los Alamos Community Affairs, serving as secretary to the Red Cross in its charter year, president of the first Business and Professional Women's Club in Los Alamos (becoming State Treasurer), PTA, the Republican Women's Club and served on the Advisory Board for the Los Alamos Credit Union.  Despite her full time job, her part time jobs, and her constant attention to Scotty's health problems, she always had time to organize a school bake sale, make a costume, plant flowers or just go off to see something interesting.  Daughter, Joyce, never failed to find her mother in the audience of any school event to not be there was unthinkable.

All the while she continued playing tennis, entering Los Alamos Tennis Club tournaments: becoming Los Alamos's first tennis "pro" teaching on weekends and after work.  She and Scotty missed few World Champion S-Site softball games, or local Bomber baseball games and the family became the *Clown's devoted fans.

Scotty died in 1958 and after a courtship with long-time family friend, W.W. (Bud) Tully, she remarried in 1962.  This marriage gained me a life-long friend, my step-sister, Pat.  Although Pat confessed in adulthood that when she watched the adults cooing over me in my high chair, she considered dumping that bowl of oatmeal right on top of those little blonde curls.

Dorothy retired from the Laboratory to return to Alhambra, California where Pat's three energetic young sons provided the sports interest and Little League footage for the movie camera.  In her sixties, with neither musical training nor much interest in music, she learned to play the organ.  Her fine Wurlitzer had attached to it an enormous amplifier/speaker which she refused to turn off.  Since the houses on Campbell Drive were separated by only single car driveways the entire neighborhood suffered through the lessons but she surprised everyone and soon became quite good.  Listening to Dorothy play - and you had no choice - wasn't so bad after all.  After 30 years of marriage and Bud's death in 1991 she returned to Los Alamos.  She became a "pink lady" for the hospital auxiliary, played bridge at the White Rock Community Center, and always watched weekend sports with enthusiasm.

As health failed she spent time in Sombrillo Nursing Facility in Los Alamos and in 1999 moved to a Raton nursing home, then recently to the Trinidad State Nursing Home, where she received loving and devoted care during the last three months of her life.

"Happy thanksgiving at the Novakowskis" - Dorothy, Walt, Joyce, Ted, Charlotte Triebnig and Dorothy.  (Wolfgang and Charlotte built the home now owned by the Lynotts.)

Dorothy was a warm and loving spirit.  She never met a stranger and was immediately loved by those she met if even briefly.  Her sense of humor never failed her, while her courage and endless good cheer through years of care-giving to both husbands in turn, to Joyce with childhood asthma, and her own serious surgeries were a source of amazement and inspiration to her friends.  What ever project Dorothy elected she did wholeheartedly.  She was proud of her employment with the then named Los Alamos Scientific Laboratory and her participation in helping to "win the war."

Dorothy is survived by daughter, Joyce Joslin (Headdy) Wolff (Walt) in Colorado, step-daughter, Patsy Tully Weaver (Gene) in California, son-in-law, Windy Headdy (Kathy) in Colorado, granddaughter, Shari Headdy Mills (Scott), both police officers in Los Alamos, Lance Weaver (Karyn) in Delaware, Drew Weaver (Carol) and Todd Weaver (Jane) in California.  Her great grandchildren are Paige Early (Bob) in Minnesota, Nathan Anderson in Texas, Logan and Loring Weaver in Delaware, Nathaniel and Dana Weaver in California.  Her great-great grandchildren are Madelyn Lavy, Elizabeth and Sarah Early.  Her nieces are Kreta Saathoff (Dave) in Washington and Juli Dahl in Oregon.  She was fond of Walt's children and will be remembered by them as well: Mike Wolff in Hawaii, Nancy Wolff in Idaho, Mary Pike in Nevada, Judy Trujillo in Missouri and Steve Wolff in Wyoming.

Her ashes will be interred later at Guaje Pines, Los Alamos.  There will be no services.  The family suggests that memorial contributions be made to one's favorite charity.

* The Clowns were a five-man softball team conceived and born in Los Alamos.  Playing for charity they challenged men's softball teams around the state.  They played to win and did so dressed as clowns, wearing clown make-up and pulling hilarious stunts.  They earned over one million dollars in their career and were featured in the first issue of Sports Illustrated.  There is an attractive and interesting memorial to them in Los Alamos.